How To Focus…Or Not

how to lose focusThis morning I lost focus which happens with regularity.

Fortunately, I can control it because I am aware of it.  If you are aware of losing focus, does that by definition make you focused?

My intention was to create a page on my how to video site about how to copy a DVD to a DVD because a lot of people want to know how to do this.  I had already written about how to copy DVD to hard drive and people really liked it so I thought I would expand on the topic.

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Richard CummingsHow To Focus…Or Not

Girls and Cars

I saw an average looking woman driving a Porsche the other day.  The Porsche was incredible, but the woman driving it remained average.

If the situation was reversed, and I were a woman looking at a man driving a Porsche, the car would remain incredible, but the man driving it might also become better looking.Read More

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The Saturday Morning Cup of Coffee, the Internet, and RooshV?

Ah, that fresh cup of java on a Saturday morning.

Paul Simon just came on the stereo with his “50 Ways To Leave Your Lover.”  Does he really mention 50?  I don’t have time to check.  But if you’re really bored, and don’t want to read What To Do On the Internet When I’m Bored, you can listen to Paul Simon’s 50 ways and read lyrics at the same time.  When you’re done, let us know whether there are really 50.

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Older Women Versus Younger Women: Who Is Better?

Who Is Better at Sex: Younger Women or Older Women?

Better in Bed:  Younger Women Versus Older Women

better at sex? young or old womenTake this one question quiz and then put your reasons in the comments section below.  Everyone is interested in your opinion. 

Are younger women or older women better in bed? 

Guys, who would you rather be with…a younger woman or an older woman?  Ladies, are you better now at 30 than you were at 18?  Read More

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Please Sign This Sexual Consent Form Before You Do Me

please sign this sexual consent contractIn talking with some of my recent college graduate friends about sex in college now-a-days, one girl mentioned to me that the participants had to sign a sexual consent legal form before actually having sex. 

Excuse Me? 

In our discussions, a few of the gals mentioned that they had had drunk sex a few times that they could scarcely remember.  So, if the guy, presumably also drunk, does not get the girl to sign the sexual consent form, can he then be accused of rape?  Or, better yet, could he accuse her of rape? Read More

Richard CummingsPlease Sign This Sexual Consent Form Before You Do Me

Sex and The Three Different Types of Women

how to make him love youI recently had a Skype chat with my friend Lynne about sex.  Lynne is French, resides in London, and she runs a Sex in the City type of blog about being single in the city of London.   She mentioned to me that she had not had sex in awhile.  She speculated that, at this point in her life, she was dormant.  Her femininity was there and ready to be activated but, currently, she had no libido.  She joked that she should rename her blog No Sex in The City.

So, I said:  “I wonder what category you fall into?”

“Category?”, she responded, “What are the categories?  Tell me!.”

I don’t believe that I had ever formulated these ideas.  They just sort of came to me during this chat.  In retrospect, I think they withstand the test of time.

So, I proceeded to tell Lynne my idea of…

Sex and the Three Different Types of Women

  1. Girls who love sex almost all the time, almost like an athletic sport. Some are rather promiscuous with many guys but others are faithful and loving to their partner but they need sex almost all the time.
  2. The “I must be in a good emotional place and then I really enjoy sex and the physical and emotional fulfillment it provides.”
  3. “I really don’t like sex too much but I will do it sometimes with my boyfriend when he really needs it.  But, if not, I don’t need or want it.”

And, of course, Lynne’s first question was:  “…and which category do you think I belong to?”

This following chat ensued:

Lynne:  For me there are only two categories:  1 and 2.

Me:  You don’t think #3 exists?

Lynne:  3 is an illusion, because of men who don’t know how to do it properly

Me:  That’s what women say, but I am not sure that’s true.  It’s a ruse contrived by women who are really #3’s.

Lynne:  Well…

Me:  …Because not many women want to admit that they don’t like sex.

Lynne:  I believe all women need to be revealed by a man.  A man or several men.  Sexual maturity comes with practicing, with complicity.  And actually a women’s vagina gets more and more sensitive with contact. 

Me:  …and less sensitive without…

Lynne:  So for example, some young woman will prefer foreplay because the vagina is has not been prepared enough yet.

Me:  This is interesting…

Lynne:  But coit after coit (sex after sex-remember she’s French :)), it gets more and more sensitive.

Me:  This is one topic that I have been considering:  Sexual differences between women of different ages…

Lynne: And from their 30s, women are craving for sex.  This comes from the theory

which says that the more a part of our body has been touched, the more erogenous it gets.  Men have this almost immediately, as their erogenous zone, the penis, is external and easy to touch.  The vagina is inside and it is never touched. And so it takes several years penetration to get the best of it.

Me:  You’re so not a number 1  :)  You’re too smart to be a #1.

Lynne:  Lol.  Why wouldn’t a number one be smart?

Me:  #1’s can be smart…with business intelligence, perhaps emotional too, but they’re ready from day 1.  They didn’t have prolonged vaginal warm-up  periods in their life.

Lynne:  Some are ready sooner.  Some say it can come from tampax use.

Me:  …or riding horses.

Lynne:  Exactly.  We read the same things!

Me:  For guys it just takes a gentle breeze :)

As we both had to go at this point, we ended our discussions here with a to be continued.  But, of course, there was one last question:

Lynne:  One last thing…

Me:  Yes?

Lynne:  Which category do u think I fall into?

Me:  You want to leave with that question?  To leave some suspense, let’s chat more about it next time… then I’ll have more information from which to draw my conclusions.

I relish my discussions with Lynne.  I agree with most of her ideas on this topic except her notion that “there is no #3.”

I need look no further than my one of my friend’s sisters.

She despises sex.  She no longer even pretends with men that they are going to get it.  From the outset, she’ll say, “I’ll need you to know up front-I don’t like sex and I won’t do it.”
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The guys, subscribing to Lynne’s theory, and thinking that they are the ones that can unleash her wild beast, always say, “You just probably have not had the right guy yet.” 

“No,” she’ll respond, “I really just don’t like it and won’t do it.  But I compensate in other ways!”

And, in their mind, the men hear, “Oh, perfect.  Lots of bl@wjobs!”

And they are right and very happy!  Until that one day, when they want to change things up a bit, and they say, “Ok, baby, we’ve been together a while now.  Let’s have sex!”

To which she’ll respond, “I told you this from the beginning.  I don’t like sex.  I’m a number three.  If you don’t know what that is, go read this article on the Internet called:  Sex and The Three Different Types of Women.”

Thoughts?  Put your comments below…

Richard CummingsSex and The Three Different Types of Women

No Country for Old Men: Movie Review

Review of the the movie No Country For Old Men

Last week, I saw No Country For Old Men and I was left with this feeling: huh? This movie won the Oscar for best picture?

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